Untangling Intimacy: Build Your Therapy Toolkit
Yes, we’re going there — join Dr. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi for candid, deep, and playful discussions of all things SEX!
Untangling Intimacy is the podcast that helps therapists and coaches have fearless conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships of every shape and style. We believe EVERY therapist should be prepared to work with sex issues — and we want to help you get there. (Not a therapist? Eavesdrop anyway — you’ll learn a lot, and have fun doing it.)
To learn more about Skye and her work, visit her website.
To learn more about Martha and her work, visit Institute for Relational Intimacy's website.
Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith is a certified sex therapist who holds a doctoral degree in Human Sexuality. She provides coaching and consulting services to clients and therapists, specializing in relationships and sexuality concerns.
Martha Kauppi is a certified sex therapist, supervisor, and speaker. She trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with relational intimacy challenges and sex issues, and is the author of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients).
Episodes
Mar 26, 2026
Mar 26, 2026
50 min
In this episode, hosts Martha Kauppi and Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith explain how they handle issues relating to initiation, desire discrepancy, and spontaneous and responsive desire. Whether it's a thoughtful intervention, or helping partners communicate to each other in respectful ways, there are a variety of positive solutions at clinicians' disposal.Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: Clinical Skills and Interventions" and individual webinars:https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/CNM-Level-1https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinarsFree training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment:https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/will-lily-brief-assessment-video-opt-in-page-podcastJoin the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/ Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com
Thanks for listening!
Mar 19, 2026
Mar 19, 2026
1 hr 7 min
Hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi explore navigating boundaries when clients seek friendship—or more—with their therapist. Practical strategies, ethics guidance, and real-world scenarios all help illustrate how to compassionately handle a fraught circumstance.
Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: Clinical Skills and Interventions" and individual webinars:https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/CNM-Level-1https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinarsFree training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment:https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/will-lily-brief-assessment-video-opt-in-page-podcastJoin the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/ Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com
Thanks for listening!
Mar 12, 2026
Mar 12, 2026
56 min
Hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi probe the complexity of sexual pain in a discussion that covers how simple questions can uncover serious medical or relational issues, and how to compassionately offer support to clients who are experiencing a pattern of unwanted sexual pain.
Use code UNTANGLINGINTIMACY to unlock 10% off "Consensual Non-Monogamy Level 1: Clinical Skills and Interventions" and individual webinars: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/CNM-Level-1 https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/will-lily-brief-assessment-video-opt-in-page-podcastJoin the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/ Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com
Thanks for listening!
Mar 5, 2026
Mar 5, 2026
53 min
In this episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi unpack what pleasure really means—the physiology of touch, the emotional and relational pieces, and so much more. Whether navigating common blocks, emphasizing embodiment, or underscoring the importance of small sensory moments, "Centering Pleasure: From Shame to Embodiment" offers insights on understanding, embracing, and effectively working with pleasure.Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessment Join the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/ Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com Thanks for listening!
Feb 26, 2026
Feb 26, 2026
31 min
In this special episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi go over interventions that were—or could be—applied to a real-life client scenario involving a couple with differing perspectives on an instance involving permission, consent, and self-pleasure.
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessment
Join the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip
To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/
To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/
Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com
Thanks for listening!
Feb 19, 2026
Feb 19, 2026
50 min
In this episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi cover how effective communication can unlock meaningful, productive results.
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessment
Join the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip
To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/
To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/
Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com
Thanks for listening!
Feb 12, 2026
Feb 12, 2026
51 min
Hosts Martha Kauppi and Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith discuss the importance of clear, controllable goals, and how they can improve relationships.
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessmentJoin the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com Thanks for listening!
Feb 5, 2026
Feb 5, 2026
38 min
In our latest episode, hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi discuss how keeping agreements, opening repair conversations, and engaging in honest accountability can rebuild relational trust after that trust has been breached.
Get “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” a new free training series:https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessmentPurchase a copy of Martha Kauppi's book, "Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)," here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/book Join the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com
Jan 29, 2026
Jan 29, 2026
38 min
Hosts Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith and Martha Kauppi discuss methods to sensitively deal with clients' belief systems around sex. Get “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” a new free training series:https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessmentJoin the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com
Jan 22, 2026
Jan 22, 2026
48 min
Hosts Martha Kauppi and Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith explore the multifaceted nature of consent and differentiation, and their impact on relational issues.
Get the new free training series, “Anatomy of an Intervention: Early Session Sex Issues Work,” (and mark your calendar for a free webinar, January 23rd, 2026, 1 pm CST): https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup
Free training in Martha Kauppi's first-session sex issues assessment: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/brief-assessmentJoin the ATSIP waitlist here and be the first to know when the course opens for signups: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/atsip To work with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, submit here: https://workwithdrskye.com/ To find out more about Martha Kauppi, and access more training materials, visit here: https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Have a question for Skye and Martha? We can't promise every submission will be answered, but we'd love to hear from you! Send your thoughts to: support@marthakauppi.com Thanks for listening!